I have been often
asked by some women why their husbands do not find them interesting in bed
again. Some women complain their husbands do not have sex with them for weeks,
months and years and they want to know why? Here is my note to a group called ''league of sexually starved wives'',
thought you might need it. This is strictly for the ladies, but you can read
this and pass the knowledge to her. I must also warn that this article is for
the good of the married and adult singles who should be preparing for
marriage. Our relationships are suffering and nobody wants to go into the
main problems; we are all chasing shadows tagging it all, “spiritual”. Like I always tell people, every man is a fan of the
vagina and every woman is a fan of the penis. The only thing that determines
how strong a fan your husband will be is your ability to make his time in there
a memorable one. It has nothing to do with age and class; it has everything to
do with your knowledge of hygiene and body care. How many women can boast of a clean southern
hemisphere that is free from foul odour and itching? Girl, what does your man
see and perceive when you are alone with him? A lot of relationships have
broken up because of this foul
odour emanating from the vaginal area (guys won’t let their pastor and priest
know that this is the problem). A good number of men have lost interest in sex
with their wives because of the inability of the woman to take proper care of
this zone. Before I go on, I want you to stand in front of your mirror and do a
little check-up. What does your vaginal
area look like? Is it a forest with several animals living in it, a tiled floor,
or a well trimmed garden? Okay, let me bring it down to your level; what is the condition of the hairs down
there? Have you tried to find out how he likes it? If he wants to have some
hairy feel, you must keep it well trimmed; if he wants it hairless, do it for
him, but make sure you go hairless without bumps as that would be saddening.
In today’s article, I am going to let
you know those little things you do ignorantly thereby destroying your vaginal
area.
Lack of Exercise: Are
you one of those who believe exercise is just for weight loss? You are wrong.
Exercise goes a long way to affect your sex life. Your man wants to have his
woman fit and flexible in bed. The more weight you gain, the more difficult it
becomes for your man to enjoy sex with you. Lack of exercise will make your vaginal muscles weak. The best
exercise to improve sex is the Kegel
squeeze, which basically strengthens your PELVIC muscles which holds up
your vagina, uterus, anus, bladder and urethra. The stronger the muscles are,
the more intense your orgasms will be. Try to stop urine flow when you pee.
Hold the squeeze for five seconds, then release. You can also squeeze your
pelvic area while cooking in the kitchen or right there in your office. Doing
50 to 100 Kegel squeezes a day will help keep those muscles in good shape.
Don’t do Kegels constantly because it can lead to urinary tract and bladder
infections.
Wrong Underwear: That particular underwear looks nice
doesn’t mean it is good for you. Always go for cotton under wears. Avoid
panties made from synthetic materials as they inhibit the circulation of air
around the vaginal area, creating the damp, warm condition ideal for bacterial
growth. Cotton is by far the best fabric to wear and if you enjoy wearing silky
under wear save it for occasional rather than everyday use. In addition to
this, avoid constant wearing of tight-fitting trousers, panty hose and girdles.
Poor Hygiene: I get
goose pimples whenever I hear women talk about going to bed sometimes without
having their bath. Some celebrities have even said it on national television.
Are deodorants and perfumes supposed to take the place of a good bath in a
woman’s life? How can a normal woman sleep
without a night bath? Some even sleep with their bras and panties. Girl, it is
not healthy. Smelling good outside doesn’t mean you are clean inside. Always
keep your genital area clean and dry.
Douching: Please
avoid those douching products in the market. They do you more harm than good.
They are one of the major causes of vaginal itching. Your vagina doesn’t
require cleansing other than normal bathing. Repetitive douching affects the
normal organisms in the vagina and can actually increase the risk of vaginal
infection. Douching won’t clear up a vaginal infection.
Scented and Harsh Soaps: Don’t
use scented or harsh soap such as those with deodorant and anti-bacterial
components. There are different ranges of feminine wash in the market. These
are soap-free and safer for you. Just get into your local drugstores and ask
for feminine wash like Sebamed, Femfresh, Summer’s Eve, and Beauty Formula.
These are affordable. I don’t know what you feel about the popular Lactacid in
the market; but I can tell you it is harsh for your vagina.
Also avoid scented tampons and sanitary
pads. Keep that can of body spray away from
your vaginal area. Avoid those feminine sprays; they will only lead to
irritation. Coloured toilet paper and bubble baths should also be avoided. Wipe
from front to back after using the toilet. This stops the spreading of faecal
bacteria to your vagina.
Use of Public Toilet: I personally
don’t use public toilets. I have been able to train myself not to use them. You
can do that too. But if you must use public toilets, please always have a small
bottle of antiseptic in your bag to wipe
the toilet seat before use. Never use it on your vaginal area as that can lead
to itching.
Indecency: Girl, you keep jumping from one man to the
other out of greed. I want to let you know that this freelance nature could
lead to your trouble. The introduction of sperm into the vagina which has a
different PH (acid/alkaline) balance to that in the vagina can lead to vaginal
odour. The earlier you learnt to be faithful to your partner, the better for
you. Why should you go through your life depending on antibiotics and
clotrimazole cream? They will in no distant time weaken your immune system. You
may escape it now but the result of reckless lifestyle will spring up at old
age.
Endeavour to have a glass of natural yoghurt everyday whenever you have vaginal
itching. Having garlic as part of
your diet is also recommended. Avoid too much of spicy and refined foods. Also avoid excessive washing of the vaginal area
as that can only make it worse. Like I always tell people, every man is a fan
of the vagina and every woman is a fan of the penis. The only thing that determines
how strong a fan your husband will be is your ability to make his time in there
a memorable one. Please do all within your human power to get that man to begin
to enjoy sex with you. When he fingers you and all he gets is a room filled
with terrible odour oozing from your vagina, he won’t try it another day. When
this happens, you find your man having sex just to fulfill his role as the
husband and no longer because he enjoys it with you. Some women go about
complaining about their husband not being able to satisfy them in bed and do it
the way they want it. Madam, how
do you expect a man who loves life the way you do to put his mouth in there
with all the foul smell?
A
woman sent me a text telling me her husband loves her sucking him, but when it
is her turn; the man remembers he is a chief in his town that shouldn’t do
that. The truth is that a good number of those men still go out and do it to
their girlfriends. This is a good reason for you to tell yourself the truth
about your state of hygiene and help the man to become a good husband to you.
In subsequent post, we will go into sex
in our home and I know that after this series, you shall begin to enjoy sex
with your spouse because that is God’s will for every marriage. Don’t forget,
there is nothing like unsanctified sex in marriage; however you do it with your
husband or wife is acceptable before God.
PEACE!
